The #1 Trait Of Deeply Connected And Present Men

An interview with comedian Mike Andre led us to the secret shortcut for diffusing tension and connecting more authentically

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As a therapist and mentor helping men grow their relationship muscles, I’ve come to see a pattern.

The #1 complaint from female partners (who often reach out for help first) is the same as what most men wish for when they see me privately:

“to become more present”

This longing to be “here and f*cking now” as one of my clients Frank is fond of saying, comes with a second and even more heartfelt wish:

“to feel more authentically connected”

These are not just words.

Both the yearning and the pain of it’s absence are real.

And the insight makes sense — mapping onto the 5 regrets of the dying (read more here)

But, HOW do we become more present and connected as men?!

It involves as trait which is not inherent but learned.

More about that soon.