The Curse Of The Good Man And The Call Of The Wild…
This is about Samir, John, and the many men we have mentored like them…
NOTE: this story is published by David Jurasek, while co-written with Anthony Reynolds and Michael McCarthy.
Aman I have never met before, named Samir, left me a very personal voice message recently,
“Uh. I’ve never done therapy but, my wife, she’s giving me no choice…”
Behind the chuckle that followed, I could sense some desperation and pain in his voice as he explained further about his wife’s questioning of their marriage and how he dreaded losing custody over their two young kids. He also recounted how his adult son refused to talk to him, only taking his money. Despite his successful career and having life long friends, he felt like an utter failure at relationships.
When I got him in a zoom call, I saw in Samir what I have come to see in hundreds of men over the years: the collapsing of a middle aged man under the weight of trying to be “good” for decades. The shattering of a mask of pretence…
