Sorting Out The Sh*t In Intimate Relationships ~ What’s Your’s and What’s Mine?

And What It Really Takes For Men To Form Impeccable Boundaries and Strong Bonds

Pic courtesy of Shoeib Abolhassani on Unsplash

“I can’t believe it!

We had another epic and Stupid fight! …”

Exasperated arms thrown in the air and dropped in despair,

“And, the part that really blew my lid was when she said I was being so…”

Naming a nasty label (selfish, insensitive, invalidating, uncaring).

“And I thought she was being so…”

Another harsh judgment (unfair, judgmental, a victim).

I’ve heard this retelling hundreds of times from men, and from couples.

And also heard it coming from my own mouth.

Pic courtesy of Patricia Marcoccia — of author and wife

And inevitably, when the dust clears, we attempt to reckon with the damage. If we are decent people, we try to clean up our part of it.