PinnedMember-onlyThe Curse Of The Good Man And The Call Of The Wild…This is about Samir, John, and the many men we have mentored like them… NOTE: this story is published by David Jurasek, while co-written with Anthony Reynolds and Michael McCarthy.Masculinity17 min readMasculinity17 min read
PinnedMember-onlyA Breathtaking ConspiracyHow conscious breathing can change our world especially in times of turmoil and pandemic — a conversation with Scott Simons Scott Simons is a man I admire on many levels. His brain is astute, sharp, and open. His capacity to inspire real world change while embodying a humbling social conscience…Consciousness4 min readConsciousness4 min read
Sep 2, 2022Member-onlySorting Out The Sh*t In Intimate Relationships ~ What’s Your’s and What’s Mine?And What It Really Takes For Men To Form Impeccable Boundaries and Strong Bonds “I can’t believe it! We had another epic and Stupid fight! …” Exasperated arms thrown in the air and dropped in despair, “And, the part that really blew my lid was when she said I was being so…” Naming a nasty label (selfish, insensitive, invalidating, uncaring). “And I thought she…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
May 16, 2022I love the depth and breadth of this piece.I love the depth and breadth of this piece. Want to re-read parts again as I skimmed and got the spine of it zeroing in on some parts to my delight appreciating how well you summarize complex data and analysis...1 min read1 min read
May 7, 2021…his is not about contribution. This is not about your heart, or your hard work, or your good deeds. This is about — and only about — the damage behind defining as “help” a thing that is your duty. Because racism is not mine, it is yours. What you do is not called “help” when it is your mess we are cleaning.♃There Is No Such Thing as a ‘White Ally’ — “TNSWA” Part I.17.5K263Catherine Pugh, Esq.So poignant and clear and I am astounded that I never saw that before.So poignant and clear and I am astounded that I never saw that before. Thank you for sharing your perspective and helping me see this.1 min read1 min read
Jan 13, 2021Member-onlyHow I Found My Freedom To Love, As A Commitment Phobic ManThere is a path for those of us who dread losing ourselves with another — Who am I to speak to this? Just one dude who has struggled with commitment — for decades — imploding many a great relationship. Two characteristics have made it feel impossible to stick around with any one person — no matter how wonderful and perfect a match they may have…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Jun 10, 2020Member-onlyThe #1 Trait Of Deeply Connected And Present MenAn interview with comedian Mike Andre led us to the secret shortcut for diffusing tension and connecting more authentically — As a therapist and mentor helping men grow their relationship muscles, I’ve come to see a pattern. The #1 complaint from female partners (who often reach out for help first) is the same as what most men wish for when they see me privately: “to become more present” This longing…Play8 min readPlay8 min read
May 5, 2020Member-onlyLess Pills, More SkillsA poetic rap and rant on ADHD from a father, therapist & martial artist — When it comes to ADHD It ain’t no VD But let’s not fool or bluff It’s indeed a double edged sword, no guff There are gifts within the debris of this great hurricane Supers Powers potent and buried, not to be feigned. Some folks say “treat the person not the…Adhd3 min readAdhd3 min read
Apr 12, 2020Member-onlyHow Gardening Is Transforming My MarriageThere were times after a tense disagreement or beguiling misunderstanding with my wife, where I would wake up in the middle of the night, anxious and sweaty, staring at the back of her wild mane of hair, pondering… If only she would be more… I used to have the same…Relationships9 min readRelationships9 min read
Mar 26, 2020Member-onlyHow To Grow Through Anxiety — Not Just Survive It Or Cope With ItThere is much written about the best ways to respond to the Coronavirus right away. Here is a solid info and here are some resources I trust. Now, if you are already doing everything you can to limit the risks, prepare for the future and increase the health and safety…Anxiety15 min readAnxiety15 min read
